how to have the difficult conversation: advanced care planning 101

No one like to think about death.

We do not like to think about our own death nor the death of our loved ones. However, on this side of the return of Jesus Christ, death is a part of life. The scripture says that all men are appointed to die once and then face judgement (Hebrews 9:27)

As responsible adults, we must plan for this eventuality.

Not only by having enough life insurance so that our dependents are cared for.

Not only for fulfilling the scripture that says that a righteous man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children (Proverbs 13:22).

But by having a plan and a vision of how you want the process of death to be handled by your loved one.

This is called an Advanced Care Plan.

The basics of an Advanced Care Plan is to create a written document that serve as a blueprint for what someone wants to be done when they cannot speak for themselves. An Advance Care Plan should document what they want done if:

• They cannot care for themselves. Are they comfortable with a nursing home or do they prefer to stay at home?

• They stop breathing or their heart stops. Do they want CPR?

• They have a condition that will cause them to be in a coma and on a ventilator for the rest of their lives. Are they ok with living in a coma on a ventilator?

While these are difficult conversations, it is much better for families to know each other’s wishes ahead of time.

Most states have official documents that can be used to complete a written Advance Care Plan. Google your state and “advance care planning” to find the right documents.